Regular guy dating advice

Women then may gravitate towards a culturally prescribed "nice guy," only to find that they become bored, their libido wanes, and their eyes wander back to "jerks." Either way, they find the relationships largely frustrating and unsatisfying.Beyond highlighting this double-bind for all, I will save the "what men can do" for another time.

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Another woman might lust after one man, be attracted to a second, and feel comfortable and attached to her partner only.

These differences in who we lust after, are attracted to, and feel an attachment towards, arise because each feeling has an independent origin.

and the type they choose to attach to (from social instruction). Socially, today's woman is encouraged, empowered (and perhaps expected) to do it all.

This, in itself, often causes extreme stress for the "super woman" and "super mom." Social norms tell her she is expected to succeed in work, run her home, raise the perfect children, and be attractive and chipper too. It is also an order that requires women to be intelligent, motivated, powerful, and in control.

All of these women relish being in charge, empowered, and having their desires fulfilled.

Getting what you want can be pretty attractive after all.From a cultural standpoint, men who are categorized as "disagreeable," "opinionated," or expect women to "acquiesce" may be considered unappealing as "attachment" partners.Unfortunately, however, many of those "culturally undesirable" male traits are similar and overlapping with the traits that are biologically "attractive." Although not always true, often the man who is intelligent, high status, and ambitious will be unlikely to take a back seat, follow, and submit in a romantic relationship.They complain about the men they call "nice guy, push-over" types, who don't stir passionate feelings. Personally, I would like to offer an alternative hypothesis—one where women have been put in a very unfulfilling double-bind.They also have difficulty with men they label attractive "jerks", who disrespect them, ignore their needs, and break hearts. I would like to posit that cultural and biological factors have been pitted at odds, leaving women in a "no win situation" most of the time in modern life.Therefore, attachment decisions are often more greatly influenced by social norms and cultural practices.

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